Wedding season in Egypt eh? It is an extremely ‘fun time’ to be a woman in this country at this particular time of the year. With a society starting to mingle with this new trend on empowering women, focusing on women’s health, women this and women that when in real life it doesn’t really matter whom you are or what you do. I love how our society is consistently bombarding us with women figures trying to change the world, strong single female characters; when in fact, as a young Egyptian lady, nothing you do matters!!! YOU are labeled as some “incomplete” individual until you have that nice gold lifetime band wrapped around your finger. (Oh right! Everyone’s getting divorced now)
STOP LYING TO US!!!! It actually isn’t very ‘fun.’ I can’t help the thoughts rushing through my brain as I kick off these painful heels I was wearing for hours in what feels like the 100th wedding I’ve been to this year. Out of the girl’s gang at school, I am the remaining single one. It is amazing how everyone compliments me as the strong successful working one who makes all of them so proud, while they each try so hard to shop for a good nice hubby for poor single me. Of course I never miss the opportunity to put them down by being the crazy unconventional workaholic independent little me encountering emasculated types of fools. Don’t get me wrong, I am so happy for them.. Although I couldn’t help noticing the flirtatious discreet text msgs going about with other male friends, and the uncontrollable cries that come out randomly from married friends on how they feel it was “kind of too early” or they “needed to explore the world a little more” or they’re “stuck because of the kids” or… sigh…
At work, you see girls either showing too much skin and flirting around or covering way too much skin with layers of cloth, both thinking corporates are the wedding arrangement saloon and to hell with being professional. What is wrong with us? Ah yes we are still bombarded by a society who focuses on weddings and popping babies rather than educating women for real! Media and society advertising girls getting married really young and fitting in and everyone looks at them as success stories so badly that no one really admits they’re sad or dumb or bored or chained, or that they sold their souls away just to please a society that never lets anyone off the hook.
I want to get married, I love kids, there is no woman who does not! But not like that! It is not the ONLY reason we are here and your empowering programs do not come from the heart or for the people. We are all forgetting women fighting for their rights, real women out there changing the world. We focus on the popular socialites looking for a spotlight (Please save a place for the rest of us)
All of this is very of confusing and upsetting if you are intellectual, independently successful, a bit plump or unconventional, outspoken, or any other of the qualities that we have never been allowed to be… or rather “that men punish us for”..
STOP LYING TO US!!!!
Ah now let’s see who is the perfect one for me… I still see life through pink colored glasses. I love how Pink is the color for breast cancer awareness (lol) and baby girls…
Thank God for drinks at weddings, for friends and family and for life. Thank God for music, nail polish and dresses and heels and all the pretty things we get carried away with.
Happy Engagement and Happy Wedding to the friends I love. (I will still have your husbands under a microscope waiting to dissect them if they ever think of harming you)
Your life is not limited to a marriage or a wedding ring or a nice apartment or society’s approval. You cannot please these tribes we live among. Our society hates itself within itself and nobody even accepts his or her own self. So just focus on you and everything else just falls into place…